Happiness In Another Dimension

I love the feeling of being happy. I don’t expect it to be an “all the time” thing but I look for it any chance I get. I am always looking for unusual stories. I look for people who are choosing happiness every day. In my latest search on how to achieve happiness, I recently came across an idea that I would like to share.

Scientists now believe that there are multiple dimensions. Some people believe that there are millions of other dimensions and that we have different lives for each decision that we make in these dimensions! In other words, for each decision that we make, there is an alternate universe that is created by the decision that we did not go with. If that is so, then you may be choosing happiness in some or many of those alternate dimensions.

Choosing Happiness In Another DimensionIf you could bridge to these dimensions then you could ask your other selves how to be happy! I have used such a technique, created by The American Monk. It entails imagining yourself in another dimension where you have already gotten those things that bring you happiness and contentment. I will explain more about this in future blogs. You can look for The American Monk on YouTube. He has some interesting videos there on how to achieve happiness.

©Christina Florence – December 2010

Am I Happy in My Relationship?

Some of you out there see your relationships as a guide to happiness. You may feel that by having a good relationship you are choosing happiness. But what is happiness, really, and how do we get there if we are in a less than happy relationship?

I’ve known quite a few men and women who think that having a good partner is the one thing that will bring complete and utter happiness. They see things in their partner that they themselves would like be. It may be that they want to make a lot of money or are good looking or both and because they perceive their partner to be this way, they believe these things will come to them and this will bring happiness. For whatever reason they’re convinced that their partner can somehow make them happy as a result of all of these external things. Aside from the ego issues, the problem with thinking that your partner can “make” you be happy is: “What does that make you? Unhappy?”

If you are not happy on the inside then how can any external condition. partner or otherwise “make” you be happy. This is false reasoning. Happiness is not external no matter how hard (and we certainly try hard) we try to make it so.

©Christina Florence – October 2010

Laughter is the Best Medicine

I believe that laughter is the best medicine. Why? Because it feels so good! The act of laughing causes an instantaneous production of hormones such as endorphins, serotonin and other hormones in the body that are associated with feelings of contentment and happiness.

Laughter shakes up your body and uses muscles that you don’t use otherwise. Laughter can even help you lose weight! Laughing changes a bad mood to good instantly because of the increase of serotonin levels in the body. Laughter spreads fast, moving quickly to those around you. Next time you are in a group, watch people’s reactions as funny things are said.  Notice how seeing and hearing someone laugh causes a laugh response, like a ripple in a pond, to the next person and the next, who then continue the passing of the laughter, to the others in the group. For this reason, laughter is extremely important to your emotional and physical health.

Get a bunch of funny books and videos that can make you laugh. Or look at funny pictures or comics. Then laugh as often as you can. I recommend  laughing for at least 30 minutes per day! It’s so important to your health.

I recently found out that there is something called “Laugh Yoga” which is spreading like wildfire in India and now in the U.S. Go to www.laughteryoga.org  to find out more.

©Christina Florence – September 2010

Am I Happy?

Am I happy?

I believe that every one of us should be choosing happiness every day. The question is, how to be happy? One important element in choosing to be happy is laughter. Laughter has a many benefits for our mind and our body. Even if it is a reaction which is regulated by the brain, our body needs laughter as much as our mind does!

We all love someone who can make us laugh. I myself am a laugh junkie. I love to laugh! If you have a sense of humor, don’t be stingy with it, share it. Not only will you feel better but you’ll also find that you will have more friends. Laughter releases endorphins, which suppress pain, and plain old “makes ya feel good.” It boosts our immune system and, as recently discovered, plays a role in healing. Laughter integrates both sides of our brain.

The best way to find laughter is to watch a funny movie, or find a comedian that makes you laugh and rent DVDs of them. Remember the now famous story of how Norman Cousins laughed his way back to health from death’s door? I’m serious! You can read all about it in his book, Anatomy of an Illness.

A sense of humor will help you rise to any challenge, handle the unexpected with ease, and come out of any difficulty with a smile. Humor isn’t just about telling jokes. Humor is the way we view the world. We can be honest about life without taking it quite so seriously. We can laugh at ourselves, at our mistakes and pain.

Louis Kronenberger explains: “Humor simultaneously wounds and heals, indicts and pardons, diminishes and enlarges; it constitutes inner growth at the expense of outer gain, and those who possess and honestly practice it make themselves more through willingness to make themselves less.” The most wasted day is a day in which we have not laughed!

©Christina Florence – September 2010

Is Happiness a “Thing” or a “Feeling”?

Now that I’ve explained that Be Alive In Five is a guide to happiness and a tool to help you choose happiness, ask yourself this question once more: “Am I happy?” This question is a tricky one. In order to answer it, we first must answer the question: WHAT IS HAPPINESS?

According to The Cambridge Advanced Learner’s Dictionary, happiness is defined as a noun, “the feeling of being happy”. That isn’t very helpful, is it? Upon looking up the word ‘happy’ in the same dictionary, we are told that happy is an adjective which means “feeling, showing or causing pleasure or satisfaction”. Somehow these definitions seem a bit vague. In my opinion, these standard definitions give more questions than answers.

Is happiness a “thing” or a “feeling”? What is “true happiness”? Has the definition for happiness changed over time?

Further research on the definition in specific reference to the philosophy of happiness gives us another word, “eudaimonia”. Eudaimonia is a Greek word which is often translated to English as the word “happiness”. Eudaimonia differs quite a bit from happiness as it is defined above, adding some clarity to it’s definition. Whereas in English, the happiness definition references a subjective state or measure of the quality of one’s life, eudaimonia’s definition refers to the experience of a life course which is objectively desirable in and of itself. This definition describes what Socrates considered to be the highest degree of happiness, or “true happiness.”

So, now that we have this improved definition of happiness, let’s put it to use by reading a bit about more about Socrates:

Socrates was a Greek philosopher (469-399 B.C.), widely considered to be the first western philosopher to develop a philosophy of happiness. In this philosophy, he states that the highest good achievable by any human being is happiness. Socrates’ philosophy also states that whatever action a person chooses in life, this choice is motivated by his/her desire for happiness. He furthermore declared that knowledge, virtue, and wisdom were all the same, since people choose an action according to what they think will bring them true happiness. Therefore, according to Socrates philosophy, the more a person knows, the greater their ability to reason out the correct choice and to choose those actions which truly bring them happiness.

From Socrates’ philosophy, I learned that knowledge is a key to finding true happiness. And that the knowledge that is most important in finding happiness is self-knowledge. In my book, Be Alive In Five, I tell you how I got to know myself and found true happiness. By sharing what I have learned, I can show you how to explore the knowledge inside yourself. By using the helpful exercises I discovered along my journey towards happiness as a guide, you should soon be upon your own path towards true and lasting happiness.

©Christina Florence – August 2010

How to Achieve Happiness Using My 5-Minute Exercises

Be Alive in Five is the culmination of years of research on the historic journey to answer the question “what is happiness?” Due to its workbook format, it can be used either as a companion to my first book, The Magic of Zero, or as a stand-alone guide to happiness.

In Be Alive in Five, I share personal stories from my own journey to choosing happiness as well as exercises designed to help you achieve happiness. I’ve also included other key information I feel will aid you on your own quest to choosing happiness.

You might be wondering, “What does Be Alive In Five have to do with happiness?” When I started this book I had been thinking a lot about how busy we all are in our everyday lives, and how many people have made to comment to me that they don’t take the time to consider their answer to one simple question “Am I happy?“, let alone actually taking the time to find out how to achieve happiness). As a possible solution to this great lack in our society, I decided to write this book – my very own guide to happiness!

In the happiness video I call Happy Arrows, I explain how a person can achieve happiness. By choosing 5 exercises from the book and doing them for 30 days you can teach yourself to feel better every day. You will find the exercise Happy Arrows in my book Be Alive In Five. This exercise takes only one minute and I just know you’ll be amazed at the impact it will have. You’ll also find several other exercises all designed to help you toward your goal of achieving happiness. I suggest combining multiple exercises to create your very own 5-minute (or less) session. I used this same technique myself, 5 minutes for 30 days, to move through this process and so can you. With this book as your guide and 5 free minutes each day, you’ll make quick progress toward choosing happiness.

I’ve found that when you take yourself off autopilot you find a whole new world of wonders waiting to be discovered. Perhaps the secret to being happy is simply in choosing happiness!

©Christina Florence – June 2010

Hypnosis and Animal Magnetism

When you think of the word hypnosis, probably the first thing that comes to mind is some man at a party trying to hypnotize guests into thinking that the onion in his hand is a juicy apple. If that’s what your mind conjures up, you aren’t alone in thinking that maybe it isn’t the solution to a serious problem that you might have, like weight loss or a phobia.

The word “Hypnosis” comes from the Greek word hypnos, meaning “sleep” and has been around for a long time. It’s a fact that every day, hypnosis helps people all around the world.

The history of hypnosis is interesting. The first type of hypnosis started with animals. In the 1600s, farmers calmed chickens hypnotically using different methods. In the 1800s people hypnotized birds, rabbits, frogs and others. B. Danilewsky experimented with animal hypnosis and studied its physiological workings in animals.

Austrian doctor, Franz Anton Mesmer (1733-1815), who is acknowledged as the “Father of Hypnosis” started the theory of “animal magnetism“. He believed that there was a quasi-magnet in the very air we breathe and that a “cosmic fluid” could be stored in inanimate objects, such as magnets and transferred to patients for curing their illness.

He cured a 29-year-old woman who suffered from a convulsive malady. During one of the woman’s attacks, Mesmer applied three magnets to the patient’s stomach and legs while she concentrated on the positive effects of the “cosmic fluid”. Her symptoms subsided when Mesmer gave her this treatment. Mesmer believed that because the “cosmic fluid” was directed through his patient’s body, her energy flow was restored and she regained her health in this way.

Mesmer had great success treating thousands of people with “animal magnetism” and the process became known as mesmerism.

Now, if you are thinking that a hypnotherapist can make you share your deep dark secrets, and there is no way you are going to let yourself feel comfortable enough to give into it, you are probably right. You will not ever really completely go out of your own comfort zone unless you have a good reason to. That is unless you want change badly enough and you trust your hypnotherapist. In hypnosis you aren’t actually losing consciousness, what is happening is that in hypnosis you are brought into a state of deep relaxation and an altered state of consciousness, which is called a trance. You’ll still be able to think for yourself, but you won’t have those inhibitions that might be holding you back if you were fully awake.

Another advantage of hypnosis is that you can learn how to master your own state of awareness. If you can do this, you can start to control your own bodily functions and psychological responses.

Hypnosis has been used to control phobias, change bad habits into healthy habits and modify behavior. If you think about it, that’s pretty amazing to be able to do all of that without using drugs. If you used hypnosis to change a bad habit that you have, it could make you richer, improve your self-esteem or even change the dynamics of your relationship with a child or a loved one. It’s incredible what hypnosis can do for you.

Once you learn more about yourself and how to bring yourself into a state of deep relaxation, the sky is the limit. You’ll be able to change your attitude – including the way you think about yourself, which will reap rewards for the rest of your life.

©Christina Florence – June 2010

Sweet Dreams are Made of This

I woke up in the middle of the night last night with the worst anxiety in the pit of my stomach. The space between my eyes wrinkled up so hard it felt like I had Sharpei there. “Why, why” I asked as I tossed and turned while my husband snoozed peacefully beside me.

“I’m usually so happy, what is going on?” I decided to ask the wrinkles between my eyes. “What is this frowning about? Don’t you know you are making me look old?” To my surprise my wrinkles talked back! This is what they said: “You are afraid of your future and you don’t know what to do” “Oh no, not you again” I thought. That voice in my head that is always the bearer of bad news.

For an hour or so I just lay there fretting about my future and accepting the fact that I was not going to get another wink of sleep that night. Then I remembered my happy arrows. “Oh, right” I said and shot myself through and through. Soon I was drifting off into a blissful sleep and my future seemed so bright I would have to wear shades. If it sounds like I was shooting drugs, I sort of was, if you call happiness a drug.

Here’s how it works.

Happy Arrows
Imagine that the negative feelings are dark clouds over head. Imagine that you have beside you a bow and a quiver of arrows. Take up your bow and pull out an arrow. Notice that the arrow is a bright shade of yellow (the color of sunshine). Now, shoot the arrow into the clouds. Notice what happens. Do the clouds give way to sunshine? Next, put a picture of yourself in front of you (in your mind) and start shooting the yellow happy arrows at the image of yourself. As the arrows hit see them melt and pour yellow softness down your entire body. Keep doing this until the image of you that you are shooting at begins to smile and you feel happy.

This is such a simple little trick to dispel anxiety any time of the day or night, so simple you wouldn’t think I would forget it. But there I was feeling needlessly miserable for over an hour when I could have just grabbed my arrows and been done with it and sleeping peacefully.

You, too, can have a peaceful night’s sleep. Next time anxiety wakes you in the night (or in the day) remember this little trick. Your happy arrows are always at your side.

©Christina Florence – February 2008

 

Do You Wake Up Happy?

I do. At least now I do.

For many years however I did not. I would open my eyes and before I was even aware of having a thought I would feel like I had a fist in my stomach. A feeling of dread, of fear and anxiety, and I haven’t even gotten out of bed yet. Yeah, nice way to start your day!

So what changed? What changed was I worked really hard to change it. I knew this feeling was literally ruining my day and my life. I would not let myself get out of bed until I had changed that horrible feeling of dread to a feeling of anticipation for what the day would bring. How?

Try this: When you first open your eyes focus on your solar plexus area. That is where your feelings are. If you notice even the slightest feeling of discomfort, you must distract yourself immediately. This whole thing sounds insane but trust me on this: sing a song in your head or sing it out loud. As I said this may seem REALLY silly, however it changes your focus and has been proven to work.

Tony Robbins, a well-known motivational speaker, says that in order to change a behavior you have to do the opposite even if it feels weird. So find a song that makes you smile and visualize yourself singing and dancing to it. My songs (and don’t laugh) are “My Favorite Things” and “Get This Party Started”!

Oops! I just Googled “happy songs” and guess what folks, I couldn’t find any recent ones. All of the ones I did find were from the fifties and earlier. Were people just happier then? Alright, back up here. Just think of a tune that makes you feel good and add your own words to it, words that have a positive, uplifting feeling to them. It is impossible to feel bad while you are singing a happy song because your mind is focused on the lyrics.

I dare you to try this for one week!

If you want other suggestions for starting the day off right, check out my book, “The Magic of Zero” at Amazon.com.

©Christina Florence – January 2008

Sunshine & Lollipops – The Freedom To Be Happy

Giving Yourself Permission to Be Happy.

What does this mean and why do we need permission? And who are we asking permission from, anyway?

Well, it seems that we in America (I can’t speak for other countries) have lost contact with the fundamentals of life here on earth. Our air and water are compromised as is our food. Our feet rarely touch the earth. We are plugged in yet disconnected. We are stressed and consumed by fear. Many of us are caught up in a daily existence that focuses on obtaining “happiness” from some place “out there”. Where, in reality, The Only Way Out Is In.

I had a client recently who said this to me:

“I feel lost in a sea of confusion. I want I want I want. It seems that all I want is to have “things”. I don’t seem happy just to be. That is what needs to change for me. I wish I could just wake up one day happy and never look back. Or never feel bad again. Instead I have a list of things I want.”

She continued, “I think ‘If I only had a bigger house I would be happy, if I only had a better car I would be happy”…but I got a beautiful car and felt happy for about a month. Then it was on to the next thing. I spend hours on the web trying to find something. What? WHAT? What am I looking for? It is like I need to always be in pursuit of something to be happy. If there is nothing to look for there is nothing to live for. This is a terrible dilemma and it is a trap. I also think that if I had more money I would be happy.”

MONEY!

Don’t you think my client might have it backwards? How about when she is happy, she will automatically generate more of everything she wants, including money!

How, then, do we feel grateful for what we have with out feeling that need for something more? Its not that we can’t want or have things. But, the pursuit of these things should not define our very existence.

Life is just a continual merry go round of “next” “next” “next” Until we stop wanting and start living we will never be happy! What we are doing is delaying gratification so that we will only be happy someplace out in the future. Fill in the blank; I will be happy when I am __________________________. Then, in a New York minute, you are 95 and that blank got really long.

Instead hop out of bed each day and remind yourself that the most important thing is to be joyful, happy and fulfilled PERIOD! From there everything, and I mean EVERYTHING else will take care of itself.

OK, I can hear you laughing now. So, all you skeptics out there, tune in next week for the next installment of Freedom to be Happy or How You Too can have Sunshine and Lollipops all day long.

©Christina Florence – January 2008